One of My Dearest Friends is Very Wise

One of my dearest friends is very wise. She sees the potential in me when my vision is shadowy. She uses the power of her gentleness, the strength of her love, and the clarity of her insight so that every one around her flourishes. She’s an absolute joy, with a lovely ability to discern what really matters.

While many men consider themselves wise, many women question whether they have wisdom. They might think wisdom has to do with age (older is wiser) or sex (the image of the white man with the beard) or a certain erudite character. It’s an effect of the cultural context I refer to in earlier blogs and dive into in depth in the book I’m writing.

It’s amazing that many women, like my dear friend, are very wise; yet, when asked, hesitate to claim their wisdom.

If we were enjoying a cup of tea and I asked you, “How were you wise this week”, it might be the first time you’ve ever been asked this question, or thought about your self in this way. You might speak about it in a shy or self-dismissive manner, but yet, in just a few minutes, you would most likely tell me about a feeling, an insight or decision, a time you communicated your truth or an action you took. You would tell me why you considered them to be wise and why they were important to you. And then another, and another. Once we got you started, it would be hard to stop!

How were you wise this week? Who around you was wise?

Try this out at work or home. Ask, “How were you wise this week” and then just wait for the insightful reflective smile that starts slowly as they remember back to a time they considered themselves wise.

Whether in staff meetings, 1-1 mentoring, on performance reviews, or after dinner with spouse or kids, take the opportunity to amplify wisdom. We all need to be reminded. Point out wisdom until everyone around you sees themselves as possessing wisdom, the capacity to mindfully consider and choose the best course of action.

How we view ourselves and each other changes how we live and the effect we have on others. We can be mindful, awake and aware of what is so, now in this moment. Working together we can generate the kind of wisdom we need to take this spinning planet of ours towards health and vitality.

This interview with Gina Lazenby jumps into the center of my assumptions about wisdom as well as my joy in pursuing wisdom.