Leading Change

Do Your Complaints Get You the Results You Want?

Do Your Complaints Get You the Results You Want?

While listening to colleagues at a recent business conference, I was actually holding a robust internal conversation of fault-finding and grumbling. I certainly wasn’t getting the results I wanted.

After this experience, I wanted to understand why complaining thoughts possess us, what they cost us, why they are useful and how to shift cycles of complaints into powerful and exciting commitments.

Change the Conversation. Change the Results.

Change the Conversation. Change the Results.

Many years ago, I had the honor of helping a partnership through a tough time. Conversations were difficult, almost impossible.

They were ready to split and lose over a decade of hard work building a successful company. Why? They spent 99.99% of their time noticing when they and their partner were not wise, not OK, under par, inadequate. Language is powerful. Like these two partners, we can choose the conversation we are in to change our results.

3 Reasons to Step into Mindfulness and Wisdom

3 Reasons to Step into Mindfulness and Wisdom

This is a critical time for humanity. Our collective mindfulness and wisdom are urgently needed and yet, not at the forefront of our thoughts, our economic and political world or our daily lives. Who might we be if we chose to listen for and act from our wisest self?

6 Ways to Develop Your Wisdom

6 Ways to Develop Your Wisdom

If I asked, “How did you develop your wisdom,” I might get a blank stare. Most likely you didn’t enroll in Developing Wisdom 101 in high school or college. Few popular TV shows or movies demonstrate the path to a wise life. Or perhaps, you would nod sagely, considering yourself a serious student of wisdom, able to quote the great teachings and wise leaders through the ages.

Either way, studies show that most of us want to be wiser in our daily lives for increases in performance, creativity, and intelligence.

The Girl Who Silenced the World

The Girl Who Silenced the World

Tears filled my eyes as I listened again to the girl who silenced the world for 5 minutes speak to the UN. Her name is Severn Cullis-Suzuki, and her speech was given at a U.N. assembly in Brazil when she was twelve years old.

That was in 1992. Sadly, her words are as relevant today as they were then.

One of My Dearest Friends is Very Wise

One of My Dearest Friends is Very Wise

One of my dearest friends is very wise. She sees the potential in me when my vision is shadowy. She uses the power of her gentleness, the strength of her love, and the clarity of her insight so that every one around her flourishes. She’s an absolute joy, with a lovely ability to discern what really matters.

While many men consider themselves wise, many women question whether they have wisdom.

If There is Anything the World Needs, it is Wisdom

If There is Anything the World Needs, it is Wisdom

“If there is anything the world needs, it is wisdom. Without it, I exaggerate not at all in saying that very soon, there may be no world, or at least none with humans populating it.” Putting our focus, vital energy and resources behind what our wise internal voice says can change the course of our lives, with one wise step and then another. Listening to this voice, we can discover our true priorities.

Listen. Open space to hear. What matters the most to you?

Why Do Children Climb on Chairs?

Why do children climb on chairs? And why do adults sit on them? Guest blogger Jennifer Kenny challenges our preconceived notions about the value of developing feminine wisdom in leadership and business.

“The prevailing thinking would tell us that children climb on chairs because they have not been trained to sit on them. However if you look carefully at how children interact with chairs you will notice that they climb on them, write on them, sit on them, play on them, ignore them and sit on the floor. It is only when they begin to distinguish chairs from other items that they begin to sit on them. A child sees a chair and they have no preconceived notion as to what a chair should be used for, so they climb on it, experiment with it, sit on it, they knock it over, they write on it, they ignore it, basically, they do whatever takes their fancy when it comes to engaging with the chair.

The interesting opportunity for us, is to look at how people engage with feminine wisdom. If they don’t know what it is, if the distinction of feminine wisdom, and the sub distinctions of feminine wisdom, don’t exist for them, then they simply, climb on it, sit on it, knock it over, write on it and ignore it, they use it for whatever purpose they think is appropriate – if they even see it in the first place. Remember children also sit on the floor quite happily and comfortably.

We are in a unique position, at this moment in history, to be able to distinguish and identify the facets of feminine wisdom and to bring forth those facets into the world in a way that they will be distinguished and in distinguishing them people will understand them, they will understand the value of them, they will understand how to engage with them, they will understand how to be able to pay for applied feminine wisdom and how to leverage feminine wisdom.

Karen Buckley has done truly foundational work in distinguishing the facets of feminine wisdom and working to bring those distinctions to a broader audience. She has distinguished nine facets of feminine wisdom and in so doing she has created the opportunity for all of us to enable humanity (masculine and feminine) understand what problems feminine wisdom can solve, what value feminine wisdom brings, why it is unique to the feminine (not just to women but to the feminine) and why that value can in turn add value for those around us and for those in our community.

Over the next few months you will see Karen articulate those distinctions in her blog and she will be publishing a book about those distinctions. She will also be looking to engage a broader audience in identifying understanding, valuing and appreciating, applied feminine wisdom and we will be working to create frameworks for bringing feminine wisdom to the world, in the same way masculine wisdom has been brought to the world.

The task ahead of us at the moment is to understand these distinctions ourselves, understand how each of us embodies one or more of the facets of feminine wisdom and help the rest of the world understand how to engage with feminine wisdom, what value it brings and how feminine wisdom can be instrumental in solving some of the enormous problems facing humanity today.

Onward!!

Sincerely, Jennifer”

Editor’s note! Jennifer, I have the biggest smile ever with your fine acknowledgment above. I too am very excited to share the distinctions we are all building every day as we become the wise feminine leaders that we are meant to be.

Jennifer Kenny is Interim CIO of SRI International. Jennifer has an extensive background in management consulting, change initiation and the design of business processes and systems strategies for Fortune 500 companies, including starting her own consulting firm BizThink in 2007.

Because I love working with women to discover these distinctions for themselves I put together the Next Octave Leadership Webinar that starts this summer where we’ll talk about the source of personal power and increased effectiveness.

Warmest regards, Karen

Leadership Changes Emerge in Third Act of Life

Leadership Changes Emerge in Third Act of Life

In the midst of my mid-life career, what I call my second act, I felt driven to work hard, lead my team to meet our performance goals, contribute as a leader in my profession and serve in leadership roles in my community.

Solstice: Welcoming Your Magnificence

Solstice: Welcoming Your Magnificence

The Summer Solstice is the longest day of the year.  Like the Winter Solstice, it is a turning point, a time when I deliberate on my repetitive habits, the ways I limit myself and others as well as the times when I welcome magnificence!

5 Ways to Stay on Track with your Priorities

5 Ways to Stay on Track with your Priorities

It’s time to get out of stagnation and into momentum by Amplifying your Priorities. Your priorities say a lot about you. The actions you take either boost or diminish the kind of life you enjoy.

Stuck in the Midst of Change? Try These 4 Steps to Find New Momentum

Stuck in the Midst of Change? Try These 4 Steps to Find New Momentum

Change is constant, normal, often desired, and sometimes dreaded. When stuck, we repeat the same thoughts again and again. These limiting thoughts hold us back. We make excuses. Our view narrows and we can only see what won’t work.