Wise Leadership

Do Your Complaints Get You the Results You Want?

Do Your Complaints Get You the Results You Want?

While listening to colleagues at a recent business conference, I was actually holding a robust internal conversation of fault-finding and grumbling. I certainly wasn’t getting the results I wanted.

After this experience, I wanted to understand why complaining thoughts possess us, what they cost us, why they are useful and how to shift cycles of complaints into powerful and exciting commitments.

Change the Conversation. Change the Results.

Change the Conversation. Change the Results.

Many years ago, I had the honor of helping a partnership through a tough time. Conversations were difficult, almost impossible.

They were ready to split and lose over a decade of hard work building a successful company. Why? They spent 99.99% of their time noticing when they and their partner were not wise, not OK, under par, inadequate. Language is powerful. Like these two partners, we can choose the conversation we are in to change our results.

What Happens When Women Stop Leading Like Men?

What Happens When Women Stop Leading Like Men?

What happens when women stop leading like men? Change, inside and out.

The Path into Mindfulness

The Path into Mindfulness

"Look past your thoughts, so you may drink the pure nectar of This Moment." -Rumi

Our mind is a flow of energy and information. The quality of our thinking, the focus of our conversations, the repetitive nature of our complaints directly influence our ability to be mindful, present.

Discovering the Power of a Strongly Held Commitment

Discovering the Power of a Strongly Held Commitment

This morning I reflected on how differently our days go when we start centered in our commitments. Living a full life and making contributions that we feel really good about, usually means we make dozens of agreements and promises at work and home that we strive to complete. Too often, competing priorities pull in different directions.

I’ve discovered the power of centering all those priorities around a few overarching core commitments that orient our days, months, and years.

3 Ways We Limit Our Leadership

3 Ways We Limit Our Leadership

Outside the limits of other’s perceptions. Outside the circle of your own past. Who are you? Let’s celebrate and let loose our creative strong savvy ready-to-get-stuff-done character that lives inside, and longs to come out and play.

3 Reasons to Step into Mindfulness and Wisdom

3 Reasons to Step into Mindfulness and Wisdom

This is a critical time for humanity. Our collective mindfulness and wisdom are urgently needed and yet, not at the forefront of our thoughts, our economic and political world or our daily lives. Who might we be if we chose to listen for and act from our wisest self?

Authentic Presence: The Invisible Side of Leadership

Authentic Presence: The Invisible Side of Leadership

We often forget our hunches, insights, or flashes of understanding in the daily scramble.  Without the skills to actively and effectively engaging the less visible, and often invisible realms, our leadership lacks dimension, authentic presence. 

6 Ways to Develop Your Wisdom

6 Ways to Develop Your Wisdom

If I asked, “How did you develop your wisdom,” I might get a blank stare. Most likely you didn’t enroll in Developing Wisdom 101 in high school or college. Few popular TV shows or movies demonstrate the path to a wise life. Or perhaps, you would nod sagely, considering yourself a serious student of wisdom, able to quote the great teachings and wise leaders through the ages.

Either way, studies show that most of us want to be wiser in our daily lives for increases in performance, creativity, and intelligence.

Invite your Wise Self to Lunch

Invite your Wise Self to Lunch

My Wise Self seemed to be out to lunch. I walked my dog, hunting for a new point of view. With no idea of my angst, he was ecstatic. As he frolicked. I stewed. Irritated with the way I handled a difficult client communication, I wanted to clean up the relationship mess I’d made, but I couldn’t stop thinking how I was right and she was wrong.

Predawn Chorus: Wildness and Leadership

Predawn Chorus: Wildness and Leadership

How unfamiliar I am with stillness when first leaving the office on retreat. How carefully constructed my busyness and the insisting voices of “should’a, would’a, could’a”.  As if the world will fall apart without my constant attention.

Pure Joy

Pure Joy

This morning I saw an auspicious sign for the new year.  As I write, I gaze out the window, engaged with the liveliness of my wild garden. Up the street, beyond the tall hedges, oaks, and cypress, a tall redwood towers.

Just after dawn, a large white bird flew through the tree tops to the grand redwood. My fingers left the keyboard as her claws gripped the tippy top and she opened her wings into the wind.